This has be one of the most frustrating question people were asking themselves; does true love exist?
True
love does exist but it is a fruit of personal growth, maturity and
wholeness—emotional and spiritual—for only to the degree that we are made whole
will our attitudes, our behavior, our actions, and our relationships be
wholesome.
Speaking personally, I had a lot of emotional issues from my childhood that I had to acknowledge and resolve before I found the love of my life. That took a deep commitment not only to God, seeking his help, but also for getting the counseling help I needed to overcome my personal issues and deficiencies; this implies you need counseling.
Unfortunately, some Christians and Muslims brothers and sisters are expecting God to
bring the "right" person into their life. It doesn't work this way. If we want to be attracted to the "right" person, we need to be the "right" person. Only healthy people are attracted to healthy people. Actually, if we are truly honest with ourselves, we can learn a lot about ourselves by looking at our significant other relationships as we are as healthy or as sick as the people we are attracted to.
In earlier years why was I attracted to ladies who were afraid to love? It was because I was unconsciously afraid to love. This was because I had felt rejected as a child and was unconsciously afraid of being hurt again. To overcome my fear I needed to acknowledge it and get all the counseling help I needed to overcome. Was it easy? No, at times it was extremely difficult but I knew that unless I overcame my fear of love, I would be running from love the rest of my life. I acknowledged my need when my pain was greater than my fear.
So, like the young lady who asked if true love existed, if you are struggling with poor or impaired relationships, start by asking God (either you are a Muslim or Christian) to confront you with the truth about you and what it is in you that is causing you to be attracted to bad relationships? Without confronting this truth, you may be floundering in painful relationships for the rest of your life. As Jesus also pointed out, only the truth sets people free.
Speaking personally, I had a lot of emotional issues from my childhood that I had to acknowledge and resolve before I found the love of my life. That took a deep commitment not only to God, seeking his help, but also for getting the counseling help I needed to overcome my personal issues and deficiencies; this implies you need counseling.
Unfortunately, some Christians and Muslims brothers and sisters are expecting God to
bring the "right" person into their life. It doesn't work this way. If we want to be attracted to the "right" person, we need to be the "right" person. Only healthy people are attracted to healthy people. Actually, if we are truly honest with ourselves, we can learn a lot about ourselves by looking at our significant other relationships as we are as healthy or as sick as the people we are attracted to.
In earlier years why was I attracted to ladies who were afraid to love? It was because I was unconsciously afraid to love. This was because I had felt rejected as a child and was unconsciously afraid of being hurt again. To overcome my fear I needed to acknowledge it and get all the counseling help I needed to overcome. Was it easy? No, at times it was extremely difficult but I knew that unless I overcame my fear of love, I would be running from love the rest of my life. I acknowledged my need when my pain was greater than my fear.
So, like the young lady who asked if true love existed, if you are struggling with poor or impaired relationships, start by asking God (either you are a Muslim or Christian) to confront you with the truth about you and what it is in you that is causing you to be attracted to bad relationships? Without confronting this truth, you may be floundering in painful relationships for the rest of your life. As Jesus also pointed out, only the truth sets people free.
hmmmmm......................this is serious Mr 4tune
ReplyDeleteYou just described my childhood experience, i av always been afraid to love... D thought of getting your heart broken was unbearable. Now av found true love.
ReplyDeletethats true broda...sum people wait for the Holy Spirit to give them true luv but it shud be like dat,He is meant to direct ur decisions and choice..so find true luv today as I am still searching
ReplyDeleteI believe that true love exist it's just that I haven't seen her in a while and am not searching.
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